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Friday Khutbah

Death the Destroyer of Desires

 
Death is not the absolute end. It is just the discontinuation of unity between the body and soul. It is a change from one state to another and a transition from this present life to that of the hereafter.
The purpose of our existence is the worship of Allah as mentioned in the Book of Allah:

 ”And I [Allaah] created not the Jinns and Men except that they should worship Me [alone]” Soorah az-Zariyat (51): 56

 This life, which we are living, is the testing ground for which there shall be only two consequences, Paradise or Hellfire. Unfortunately more than often we disregard death, as we are so attached to this world and the love of which has been established in our hearts .

“Certainly, they see it as distant, but We see it as near” Soorah al-Ma’arij (70): 6-7

 Death only becomes a reality when a close beloved one dies. The heart feels heavy, the eyes shed tears and there is, at that moment, a present fear of death. If we were to spend even a single moment each day thinking about death, it would bring forth many concerns? The greatest being our Hereafter:

 ”He Who has created death and life,
that He may test you,

which of you is best in deed.”

Al-Mulk (67):21

 So we stop and consider what we are doing with our time and where we are heading, and then realize that much of it is wasted in light talk, in laughing, in pursuing that which is not going to benefit our Hereafter. One of the Salaf said:

 ”Three characteristics are from Eemaan: Modesty, Chastity and Withholding of the tongue, not the with holding of the heart and actions. These are things which cause gain in the Hereafter and loss in this life, and what is gained in the next life is greater than what is lost in this world.”

 [Reported by Abdur-Razzaaq in his Musannaf from A'oon ibn 'Abdullaah]
“This World in comparison with the world to come is just like one of you putting his finger in the sea.. Let him consider what it returns with.” Saheeh Muslim (eng. trans. vol.4 p.l486 no.6843 )

 The Prophet Muhammad (sallahu alihi wa-sallam) explained how this world is not even worth the wing of a mosquito! And how small is a mosquito, and then the wing of a mosquito- so what is the worth of the world we run after and are dearly attached to?

 The Messenger of Allaah (sallahu alihi wa-sallam) referred to death as ‘the destroyer of desires.”
[Sunan at-Tirmidhi, Ibn Majah & Nasaai and authenticated by Sheikh al-Albanee in al-Mishkaat (1/1607)]

 Because when each one of us remembers the awesome reality of death and what is to follow after that, our present desires and wordy concerns seem so insignificant and futile, and the life of the Hereafter becomes our goal and we become interested in the means to attain that goal. We find that the Companions of the Prophet (sallahu alihi wa-sallam) excelled on this point and were not deluded by the amusements of this world, knowing that love for this world would injure their Paradise.

Hence, they faced trials and every hardship with the knowledge that a weighty judgment was yet to come and a full compensation yet to be paid – so they had hope and fear in Allaah, without exaggerated optimism or disparity.

 ”O you who believe!

What is the matter with you,

that when you are asked to march forth

in the cause of Allaah [ie. Jihaad]

you cling heavily to the earth?

Are you pleased with the life of this world

rather than the Hereafter?

[ Soorah at-Taubah (9):38]

 Regarding the shaheed (martyr), the Prophet (sallahu alihi wa-sallam) said:

 ”Nobody who enters Paradise will (ever like to) return to this world, even if he were offered everything on the surface of the earth, except the martyr who will desire to return to this world and be killed ten times for the sake of the great honor that has been bestowed upon him.” [Saheeh Muslim (eng. trans. vol.3 p.1045 no.4635)]

Let us see how these words affected the hearts and lives of the Companions, as we reflect upon one Companion in particular, who was guaranteed Paradise, Talhah ibn ‘Ubaidullaah .

 ”Whoever wishes to look upon a martyr walking the face of the earth, then let him look upon Talhah ibn ‘Ubaidullaah..”
[Sunan at-Tirmidhi & al-Haakim. Authenticated by Shaikh al-Albaanee in his as-Saheehah (no.126)]

 The Prophet (sallahu alihi wa-sallam) said to Talhah when his fingers were struck by arrows in protecting the Prophet (sallahu alihi wa-sallam) at Uhud, as he let out an exclamation of pain:

 ”If you had said, ‘In the name of Allaah’, then the Angels would have raised you up while the people were looking on at you.” (And in another narration he added): until they entered you into the sky.”
[Sunan an-Nasaai. The addition is from al-Baihaaqee. Authenticated by al-Albaanee in his as-Saheehah (no.217)]

 ”Talhah is one who has fulfilled his term.” [Sunan at-Tirmidhi and authenticated by Sheikh al-Albani in as-Saheehah (125)].

 Which means that he has exhausted his allotted time in the path of Allaah there remaining nothing between him and death – thus he is as one killed already, although still alive. These are the best of people, those whose belief is manifest in their actions, to whom Allaah and His Messenger (sallahu alihi wa-sallam) are more beloved than the world and all it contains.

 ”But truly the home of the Hereafter
is the actual life, if only they knew.”
[Soorah al-Ankabut (29):64]

 ”We have reminder upon reminder, about how nations before us were destroyed and a common sickness which they were plagued with was ‘love of this world’. Regarding the Jews, who claim to be the best of all people and inheritors of the Promised Land, Allaah says:

 

“And verily you will find them

the greediest of mankind

and [even greedier] than those

who do not believe in Resurrection

[i.e. the idolaters].

Every one of them wishes that

he could be given a life of a thousand years.
But the grant of such life will not save him
even a little from [due] punishment.

And Allaah is all-Seer of what they do. “
Soorah al-Baqarah (2):96

 If these people who spend their time in heedlessness and negligence, and futile desires, and the best part of their time being when they sleep or are inactive – then death is better than life. And we say to them:
‘Time is the most precious thing which you take care of, and I see it to be the easiest for you to lose”
[Taken from The Call to Islaam and the Caller of Shaikh 'Alee Hasan . ]
” ….. and the worst regret is regret on the Day of Resurrection….and the fortunate one is the one who takes admonition from others..”
[From the famous khutbah (sermon) of the Companion, Ibn Mas'ood t which has been recorded in al-Musannaf of Ibn Abee Shaibah (vol.7 no. 106)]

 

“Live in this world as if you are a stranger or a traveler.” [Saheeh al-Bukhari vol.8, p.284, no.425]

 Does a traveler waste his time in gathering that which is of no benefit for his journey? Or does he immediately select that which shall facilitate him to reach his goal? In the same way, we too must get into the good habit of striving to do as much as we can today and everyday, not putting off things for tomorrow, or after exams, or marriage, or the age of sixty . . !

 ”If you survive till the evening do not expect to be alive in the morning and if you survive till the morning, do not expect to be alive in the evening. And take from your health for your sickness and [take] from your life for your death.” [Saheeh al-Bukhari vol.8, p.284, no.425]

 ”And die not except in a state of Islaam”

Soorah al-Imran (3):102

 So we keep our hearts moistened and alive with remembrance of Allaah, and we remember death in order to remember the Hereafter, and finally we close with a citation from Imaam ash-Shaafi’ee,

“O my soul, it is not except a few days patience,

As if her extent were a few dreams.
O my soul pass quickly on through this world,

And leave it, For indeed life lies ahead of it.”

taken from here

THE MAN WITH THE HEAD OF A DONKEY

THE MAN WITH THE HEAD OF A DONKEY

FEAR ALLAH

 

From ‘Awwam ibn Hawshab (rahimahullaah) who said  ‘One time I stopped by a village which was adjacent to a graveyard. So when it was time of ‘Asr prayer; a grave from among the graves split open and came out from it: A man whose head was like the head of a donkey, while his body was like that of a [normal] human!  And he brayed [the sound which a donkey makes]- three times , then [fell back into] the grave covering him once again!  And beside that graveyard there was an old woman who was either plaiting her hair or some wool.  [Seeing me shocked] So one woman said to me: ‘Do you see that old woman? ’  I replied: ‘What is with her?’ She said: ‘She is the mother of this one [ i.e. the man from the grave].’  So I said: ‘And what is his story?’ So she said : ‘He used to drink alcohol upto where he gets fully intoxicated, and his mother would say to him : ‘O my son, fear Allaah. Until when are you going to drink this alcohol?’    So he would reply to her: ‘Indeed you are just braying, just like how the donkey brays.’   So [after some time] he passed away; and it was the time after ‘Asr.  Hence his grave opens up – after Asr- every day, and he brays three times, and then his grave swallows him back !”
 
Source : 2517 in Saheeh at-Targheeb wa Tarheeb of Imaam Al-Albaanee who said it is hasan, and said : It was narrated by Imaam Al-Asbahaani and others, and he Al-Asbahani said: Abul-Abbaas Al-Aswamm narrated it in Naysaapur infront of the huffadh [Great memorizers of hadeeth] and none of them denied it.
The story is also mentioned in : Az-Zawaajir of Allaamah Ibn Hajar al-Haythami, and also in Ghidha al-Albaab fi sharh mandhoomatil-Aaadab of Allaamah as-Safaareeni .
 
Lessons & Benefits :
1. Kindness to the Parents,
2. Kindness & Obedience to the Parents,
3. Kindness & Obedience & Humility to the Parents.
4. Remember , Your Mother, Your Mother , Your Mother; then your Father.
5. A transgression is re-paid in the same manner.  And punishment starts in the world, and in the grave, then in the here-after.
6. Alcohol ; the destroyer of a persons Deen, etiquettes, and even worldly affairs.
7. From the most important things is : Asking Allaah to make you live upon His obedience and to ask Him for a good end.

Making Mac and Cheese WHAT WAS FOR DINNER!

Whats for dinner right now …….ohh  I am sooo disappointed you know how you have the taste for something you have all the ingredients and then you cook it and it doesn’t turn out right …… So sad and it’s everytime for me I swear everytime I make baked macNcheese it doesn’t turn out right . I would start crying right now,,,,seriously thats how im feeling now  but my son and his friends been running in and out all day lol but i’m serious upset and sad angry pissed and all the other words for my macNcheese not  turning out right dog goneit.  take a look at pics down below . I put bread crumbs on the top,,,,,,,,,, why ……… I don’t know that’s how Naimah does it.  I don’t know how many times she has given me the recipe and it still doesn’t turn our right ughhhhhhhh .

This is my plate and you see how the noodles are all seperated like there is no cheese or someting idk just awful

It looks burnt it's not...bread crumbs I guess i didn't put enough cheese or I put too many noodles thats it i give up on making it I litterally have tears in my eyes now OMGoodness .... pms big time lol

ok so I just knew this time my macncheese would turn our good while it was baking I made a smoothies with frozen pineapples and white cran-peach at least that turned out right OMGoodness i'm hungry and have the taste for macncheese

I’M TOO MAD TO FIX ANY TYPOS

8 Lies of Mother

Eight lies of mother

1. The story began when I was a child; I was a son of a poor family in Africa. We did not even have enough food. Whenever meal times came, mother would often give me her portion of rice. While she was removing her rice into my bowl, she would say “Eat this rice, son. I’m not hungry”. That was Mother’s First Lie.

2. When I was growing up, my persevering mother gave her spare time to go fishing in a river near our house, she hoped that from the fish she caught, she could gave me a little bit of nutritious food for my growth. After fishing, she would cook some fresh fish soup, which raised my appetite. While I was eating the soup, mother would sit beside me and eat the rest of the fish, which was still on the bone of the fish I had eaten. My heart was touched when I saw that. I then used my chopstick and gave the other fish to her. But she immediately refused and said “Eat this fish, son. I don’t really like fish.” That was Mother’s Second Lie.

3. Then, when I was in Junior High School…… to fund my studies, mother went to an economic enterprise to bring some used-match boxes that would need to be stuck together. It gave her some money to cover our needs. As the winter came, I woke up from my sleep and looked at my mother who was still awake, supported by a little candlelight and with perseverance she would continue the work of sticking some used-match boxes. I said, “Mother, go to sleep, it’s late, tomorrow morning you still have to go to work.” Mother smiled and said “Go to sleep, dear. I’m not tired.” That was Mother’s Third Lie.

4. The final term arrived…….mother asked for leave from work in order to accompany me. While the sun was starting to shine strongly, my persevering mother waited for me under the heat for several hours. As the bell rang, which indicated that the final exam had finished, mother immediately welcomed me and poured me a cup of tea that she had brought in a flask. Seeing my mother covered with perspiration, I at once gave her my cup and asked her to drink too. Mother said “Drink, son. I’m not thirsty ! h That was Mother’s Fourth Lie.

5. After the death of my father due to illness, my poor mother had to play her role as a single parent. She had to fund our needs alone. Our family’s life was more complicated. No days without suffering. Our family’s condition was getting worse, a kind uncle who lived near our house assisted now and then. Our neighbours, often advised my mother to marry again. But mother was stubborn and didn’t take their advice; she said “I don’t need love.” That was Mother’s Fifth Lie.

6. After I had finished my studies and got a job, it was the time for my old mother to retire. But she didn’t want to; she would go to the marketplace every morning, just to sell some vegetables to fulfill her needs. I, who worked in another city, often sent her some money to help her, in fulfilling her needs, but she would not accept the money. At times, she even sent the money back to me. She said “I have enough money.” That was Mother’s Sixth Lie.

7. After graduating with a Bachelors Degree, I then continued to do a Masters Degree. It was funded by a company through a scholarship program, from a famous University in America. I finally worked in the company. With a good salary, I intended to bring my mother to enjoy her life in America. But my lovely mother didn’t want to bother her son. She said to me, “I’m not use to.” That was Mother’s Seventh Lie.

8. In her old age, mother got stomach cancer and had to be hospitalized. I, who lived miles away, across the ocean, went home to visit my dearest mother. She lay in weakness on her bed after having an operation. Mother, who looked so old, was staring at me in deep thought. She tried to spread her smile on her face…but it was a noticeable effort. It was clear that the disease had weakened mother’s body. She looked so frail and weak. I stared at my mother with tears flowing. My heart was hurt, c.. so hurt, seeing my mother in that condition. But mother with the little strength she had, said “Don’t cry, my dear. I’m not in pain.” That was Mother’s Eighth Lie.

After saying her eighth lie, my Dearest mother closed her eyes forever !

Polygyny and Blogging “Somethings Are better left Unblogged”

Don’t get me wrong I enjoy blogging,  but I feel somethings should not be blogged.