The Beautiful Bond of Sisterhood….

My husband give us wives a vacation once a year like a vacation alone although it would be nice if we could have a vacation alone with himbut whatever.  We  never take a vacation all at once like we wives can’t take a vacation at the same time sorta like a job I guess LOL anyways we usually get a week or two to go and be with our family or just a break.   Y’all know my vacation time is way pass my allowed time yes I know . So anyways  my husbands first wife vacation time is coming up and she had the option to go back to New York and be with her family masha Allah but she chose to come here to Des Moines and spend it with me and Aslam WOW!!!!  Masha Allah like how dog on nice is that.

I was so happy when she called and  asked me if her and 2 of her kids could come and spend vacation here with me  WHAT OHMYGOODNESS !!!!!I am so honored that she would give up her time with her mother and  sisters and brother to spend it with me like how awesome is that. It will be nice to have a familiar face here alhumdulilah right now I can think of thousands of things we can do together like go shopping I hate all the stares  I sometimes get when I’m shopping alone , go to the masjid together I can introduce her to the sisters here, we can go canoeing LOL  there is so much I am uberly excited masha Allah . I’m the only niqabi here and it gets lonely I mean I know the sisters here but our whole minhaj and understanding  of Islam is different in so many ways, so it’s hard to click with the sisters  here .

 Masha Allah my co-wife is very strong in her deen alhumdulilahshe’s very caring and supportive sister masha Allah very selfless. Alhumdulilah we ‘ve never had a huge fight or not talked with each other masha Allah well actually there was a time we didn’t talk in the begging when(I knew) I didn’t know about her but you know what I mean like we’ve never had fight and just stop talking to each other masha Allah. I know some co-wives that will go months without talking to each other despite this hadith-From Abu Ayyub al-Anshari Rasulullah saw said: “It is not right for a man to abandon his brother for more than three days.” (Bukhari, Muslim) subhanaAllah that hadith helps us in many ways you know after 3 days you have to just squash it and move on . Another hadith as well -Jabir said that Rasulullah saw said : ” If one makes excuses to his brother, but he does not excuse him, or accept his apology, he is as sinful as one who takes an unjust tax ” ( Baihaqi )    

 I can’t fathom the idea of not speaking with my co-wives, us wives speak to each other if not  daily at least once or twice a week even when we are bickering we still  call and say we love each other LOL and sometimes  sometimes will apologise  but you get what I mean we talk to each other more than we speak with our husband sometimes masha Allah . My co-wife  is that big sister that will stick up for you in school and will fight your battles for you LOL  masha Allah she has fought mine not literally but she stuck up for me plenty of times masha Allah. I wish I had the self confidence she has masha Allah maybe some of what she has will rub off on me . InshaAllah they will come this Saturday her and her kids will come with our husband(women can’t travle alone) and he will leave later that night. Whoo Hoo Party over at UmmAslam ’s naw just kidding LOL